Cruel comments about Blue Ivy’s hair need to stop!

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I was pretty disgusted to see the comments made against a baby on the BGLH (Black Girls with Long Hair) Facebook page, under the post: Blue Ivy is Rocking Twists. This is not the first time this blog has posted pictures of Beyoncé with her 21 month old daughter, Blue Ivy Carter. Each time, people feel the need to make negative comments about the baby’s looks, and hair. ALL of us had natural hair when we were babies, so why the scrutiny? During an interview with Oprah, Solange Knowles spoke about getting her first perm as early as four years old. With the cruelty targeted against her niece’s natural hair, I fear Blue may suffer a similar fate. Examples of these negative comments include ‘ Beyoncé really needs to do something  with her (Blue’s) hair’, ‘Beyoncé really needs to comb that girl’s hair’, ‘She’s a beautiful kid but why does her hair look unkept’, ‘Oh those are twists, I thought they were naps’. I noticed that some of the comments were made by women who appeared to have relaxed hair or weave according to their profile picture.  Such women probably joined that natural hair blog  to cause trouble and make negative comments about natural hair.

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Most of us with natural hair have heard comments like this, especially the usual demand that we comb our hair. People who make such statements have no knowledge of Afro textured hair. They compare it to straight silky hair and its noted differences are simply seen as flaws, rather than unique qualities. It disgusts me that such attitudes still exist in 2013 and people would resort to making such comments about a baby. These were probably the same people who were complaining about Beyoncé not showing any pictures of Blue Ivy for many months after she was born. Now we know exactly why she kept her hidden. These people seem upset that she has her father’s African features. They are upset that Blue Ivy didn’t get the ‘good hair’ but got the African/’nappy’ hair instead.

The majority of African-American women chemically straighten their hair or continuously keep their natural hair covered with other hair textures.  Comedian Cheryl Underwood received a backlash for calling Afro-textured hair ‘nasty’.  Judging by these comments, she was only saying what many African-American women think about their own hair texture. These are the same women who wouldn’t hesitate to put harmful chemicals on the scalps of their little girls.  This gives them the message that; ‘mama really has to do something with your hair because, your natural hair isn’t good enough, or, your natural hair is problematic and has to be fixed!’

FYI, Afro-textured hair is kinky and tightly coiled in nature, it may appear uneven at times because some women have tighter or loser sections. Combing it, doesn’t magically make it sleek or give it an even shape, where every hair is perfectly placed.  Babies especially have uneven hair because it is in the early stages of growth. You often find some babies with bald patches especially at the back of their head which they sleep on. To put the same standards on a baby that you would put on a grown women, is ridiculous!  In general, the use of a comb on Afro-textured hair should be minimized and only used on wet hair.  Finger detangling is just as good,  if not, more effective than a comb. So comments like the ones I read on this blog, only go to show how clueless people are about natural hair.  You often see clueless mothers subjecting their daughters to pain when combing their hair, because they have never learned how  to properly comb, Afro-textured hair in its natural state.

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I am not a  Beyoncé fan,  I’m a fan of natural hair. I am a fan of little black girls knowing that they are beautiful and that their hair is beautiful. I am a fan of young black girls not coming home from school and saying they want hair like the white girls. I’m also a fan of mothers taking the time to learn how to manage their daughter’s natural hair, rather than damaging it with relaxers or excessive heat and, I am certainly a fan of African beauty. If Beyoncé wants to experiment with Blue Ivy’s hair by putting it in braids, great! She’s taking the time to look after her daughter’s  hair, which is beautiful. Blue Ivy is not a natural hair inspiration or a celebrity yet; she’s simply a baby who has just started her life! And already, she is being told that her hair isn’t good enough, not by white people, but by black women with the same type of hair, minus the perms and weaves. Sad!

Have you seen these comments? Check out the blog post here: https://www.facebook.com/blackgirllonghair/posts/10151737920758391

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  1. Pingback: Is kinky hair only acceptable when “styled”? – Natural Fantastic

  2. Well if a mother doesn’t embrace her natural hair, the chances are she will struggle with her daughters natural hair. But from the pictures I’ve seen, there is nothing wrong with Blue Ivy’s hair. I can’t help but think these comments are because people see Beyoncé with her ‘glamorous’ Brazilian lace front and wonder why her daughter has ‘nappy’ hair. Many people still consider natural hair to be rough looking. So they may immediately think that Blue doesn’t look as ‘put together’ as her mom. I also think little black girls are adversely affected when they see their mothers with long flowing European weave, that doesn’t resemble their hair in the slightest.

    Yes Beyonce is in the public eye so it comes with the territory, but I still don’t believe the comments based on the picture above, were warranted. I personally think her hair looks fine there and the braids are age appropriate, as long as they are not done too tight. Thanks for commenting and sharing your opinion. Much appreciated 😊.

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  3. I think the comments about Blue’s hair is perfectly warranted. There is nothing wrong with natural hair. But it does look like Beyonce doesn’t do anything to it. Just because it is natural you should still do something to it. As far as experimenting with braids and twists, she’s not even 2 years old yet. Is her hair long enough to braid? As much money as they have, if Beyonce doesn’t know how to fix it, she can afford to pay someone who can. No excuses! And no offense to naturalfantastic, if you are in the public eye, people are gonna talk about you. Whether you’re a baby or 80 years old. Point blank period, ain’t no way around it.

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  4. It’s especially sad when it’s fellow black women that make the comments. I said as much in a recent post about Sheryl Underwood’s comments. It’d be nice to have your thoughts on my post

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  5. Yes I agree that there wasn’t anything wrong with her hair in the pictures posted and she is a very beautiful little girl. Yet there were many negative comments. I can’t help but think that if she had looser, defined curls, comments about her hair needing combing or looking rough wouldn’t exist. People are still fixated on the notion of ‘good hair’ and ‘bad hair’.

    Also, I was taught that if I didn’t have anything nice to say, not to say anything at all. How much more should this apply to a baby? Yes it is certainly a cruel world. Thanks for commenting and giving your perspective.

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  6. Now I think Blue Ivy is an adorable little girl BUT sometimes I do feel they need to comb her hair. Just because you are natural doesn’t mean you have to look dry and undone.moisturize lil mamas hair that”s all I would say. I don;t think anything is wrong with the pics you posted though. She’s a child and she can look a little wild sometimes but I think the issue is that she never seems to look as put together as her mama. I can only speak for myself I know the world is cruel and mean so I get it.

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  7. They’re be upset and frustrated about it, but it wouldn’t occur to them that it’s because of the chemicals. They would simply think that there is something inherently wrong, yet again, with the child’s hair – smh

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  8. Thank you Chinneliya! I am also from the UK and didn’t get my hair relaxed until I was 11 or 12. I too was shocked to hear this. I remember watching Chris Rock’s movie Good Hair and hearing women talking about relaxing their 3 year old’s hair! You’re so right, these people really need to take a hard look at themselves.

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  9. I agree with you completely. Here in the UK it’s very rare to see black girls under the age of 10 with relaxed hair, so I’m always shocked to here that quite a lot of African-American mothers relax their daughters hair from the age of 4. I consider it borderline child abuse simply because I have never seen it here in London.

    I think Blue Ivy’s hair looks just fine. If Beyonce were to slick it back it would just ruin Blue’s edges before they’ve even had a chance to grow.

    All the negative commentators need to calm down take a long hard look at themselves.

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